My best friend has been prodding me to start penning my thoughts in a blog eversince the concept was first introduced. And my reaction?: ‘I do not want to have an online public personal diary for every Tom, Dick, Harry and others to read. No way’. No amount of cajoling worked. ‘And now why?’ Is that what you are thinking. Well, that shows that even the most closed of minds do open eventually. Having got over the initial ‘misunderstanding’ of what a blog is and having become fans of some really good penmanship exhibited by friends and strangers, I should admit, I am finally ready, thanks to some bit of more prodding by another person in my life whom I value very much. I am sure he would not want me to mention his name or anything to reveal his identity but here is to you buddy. I am sure you would read this and understand that this post is especially for you…Here is to you and K….
Well, there has been a tremendous upheaval of sorts happening inside the skull for the last couple of months and tossed me into a tumultuous journey on the rough seas of life. No amount of ‘taking breaks’ seemed to help till I realized that to some extent, taking a break meant that we run away from the situation momentarily and get back to it with a shock once again, the break is over. Dealing with life, the vagaries of it, the miseries of coping up with people around you, relationships, professional woes, expectations etc. was beginning to take its toll. Till, by a quirk of fate, I still wonder how, it all happened, this very special person (in fact 2 of them as a team) plugged into my life, made me take a breather – not a break remember. Taught me to slow down, go deep within, all the time holding my hands, never pausing for a minute. He made me experience and examine each and every feeling and thought process, to savour the minute, evaluate my reaction to every situation, pleasant and unpleasant and brought me back to an awakening of kinds. An ease I have never felt in the past…Well, for those of you who chance by this, you may be wondering what exactly is it all about.
To summarise just a few points which made a big impact on me:
- Pause and reflect: There are things out of control and those which you may have some control over. Reflect on this and let this be the mantra for a worry free time. When things are no longer in your control, like what happened a second back, why waste time and mental faculty in worrying about it. And when you have no control of what is to happen, why worry about it again. We tend to live much in the past or in the future that we forget to look at the ‘present’ that life delivers. Pause every now and then, gather yourself and proceed
- Vibes – They do travel across space. I did not buy it then but after having listened to it in the past fortnight, I do agree. We have fixed prenotions of people and how we expect them to behave/ react and when this is failed to be met, we come across the major root cause of all evils in a relationship – disappointment as a result of expectations. This again culminates in a cycle of unwanted thoughts in the mind, positive or negative and each of this bundle of energy DOES indeed travel. It Does reach across, believe me, to the target person. I remember, the scene from the movie Munnabhai MBBS (and probably many more in Bolly/Tolly/Hollywood too) wherein Munna calls out to Gracy Singh (I forget her name in the movie) by mental vibrations across the hospital courtyard to see if it works and was stunned to see that it does. Though it is the masala of Bollywood, I am indeed fortunate enough to have become conscious of this and having experienced it innumerable times over the last one week, can vouchsafe for it. When we think positive thoughts about anyone, especially about someone we do not actually get along with, the vibrations do travel to the person’s mental faculty, plugging at a superior energy level, and miraculously does lead to a 180 degree change in the relationship. Amazing right?
There are many more such lessons learnt but I pause for now. And reflect on what is written and what would and could be written in the moments to come. Of course this is only by first posting…so rest assured…